Am I A Failure
Dunno, Are you? Sup! Cole here talking about what it means to be a failure and if you are one.
Let me start by saying this. You are only a failure when you declare yourself a failure.
Me and Beeha watched a film the other night that had a scene in it that truly stuck with me.
Guy walks into office.
Guy: I'm sorry I lost that account. I know it was worth half a million dollars and it's the worst loss in the companies history. I'll pack up my desk.
Boss: Where the fuck do you think you are going, get in here and sit down.
Guy sits down
Boss: First of all, NEVER apologise for anything. If you break something then you fix it. You wouldn't burn a house down then sit about crying over it. No. You roll your sleeves up and build a new fucking house! Get back to work and make that money back.
Guy: I wont let you down sir.
WHY THIS SCENE IS IMPORTANT
When I saw this scene I turned to Beeha and expressed my love for the scene which she agreed with.
I love this scene for two reasons.
The boss chose not to give up on the decision he made to employ that person. He acknowledged a mistake was made but chose to grant the individual the opportunity to fix it instead of just replacing him.
This scene applies to real life so much! The sad truth is too many people fail to achieve a goal first time and give up. It's this giving up that makes them failures. Not the fact that the goal wasn't achieved. Really, if the goal isn't achieved straight away it's up to you to find out why, make a new plan, and BEAST IT!
When you decide on a goal, task or aim of any kind. It's important to understand that you may not achieve it on your first attempt. Would you fail your driving test once and never drive again? No. You would keep sitting it until you passed. So why give up on that company you started? Why ruin the painting and not start again? Why have this wondrous and beautiful idea and not see it through no matter how tough it gets?
You are only a failure when you stop trying. Regardless of how long it takes or how many attempts it takes. Keep that in mind the next time you start something. See it through, no matter what.
I know that I’ve considered myself a failure a few times in life when I’ve started a project that I’ve been super passionate about… but then gave up on. That’s why I feel it is important to remember you have time. April and I began writing a book two years ago. That book is still incomplete and we barely work on it. Did we fail to create it? No, because we understand that good things take time and work. Equally we are both working on other things so we accept that it will take some time to complete.
If you start a project of your own but find you lose interest, Take some time away and really think about if you want to quit it or if you’d rather just take it slower. If you decide that you don’t want to do it anymore don’t consider yourself a failure, because you CHOSE to stop. To fail would imply there was something to achieve from it that you didn’t. So if you started a project and learned a new skill, or something about yourself while doing it.. have you really failed… or have you learned something new.. sounds like a winner to me. Just something to think about I guess.
Short and sweet one today folks!
Let me know in the comments below of a time you started something and saw it through even when the odds where against you! Would love to see some examples of the topic!
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Thanks for reading! Stay Loose!